What is Premature Ejaculation?

Most of the population of the Earth enjoy sex. Let's be honest, you like having long sexcapades with an unforgettable finish, when you feel pleasantly exhausted. For someone, twenty minutes to half an hour is enough, while others need an hour or two. But, your partner is going to be disappointed if you produce the juice before you put it in a caboose. That's right, today we are going to talk about premature ejaculation, which is definitely a problem, as no one likes it when you jettison your bombs before the mission is complete. To solve the problem, you need to learn what is premature ejaculation.

what's premature ejaculation

Rapid climax, early ejaculation, rapid ejaculation, that's all the synonyms for what has been historically known as ejaculatio praecox. But what's premature ejaculation anyway? According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, premature ejaculation is when a man experiences orgasm and uncontrollably expels semen within one minute of sexual activity. Sounds horrible, right? Literally, it means that you are not going to have any pleasure from sex. Needless to say that your partner is also unlikely to enjoy such a sexual experience. But there is no need to worry, as almost every man has experienced premature ejaculation. Actually, the rapid climax is the most common male sexual dysfunction. But if you don't prevent premature ejaculation, you are most likely to experience anxiety attacks that will only add to the problem.

So, when you face the main symptom, which is an uncontrolled ejaculation before or shortly after the intercourse begins, you need to start thinking how to solve it, as experiencing orgasm without any stimulation is not normal. But before seeking help, you need to learn the causes of the premature ejaculation, as it often may be the result of some psychological trauma. No need to take medicine if the problem is really in your head. So, let's check out the causes of premature ejaculation without further ado.

Causes of Premature Ejaculation: Why It Happens

Unfortunately, premature ejaculation remains a condition that requires further research, as there is no theory that gives an exact explanation what causes it. But that doesn't mean that there is no way of solving this problem. Reasons for premature ejaculation vary, but the psychological traumas remain the most common cause of rapid climax. To understand the causes of premature ejaculation, you need to know that this problem exists in two forms: the acquired and lifelong. The lifelong premature ejaculation means that the problem existed in your life since your puberty, while the acquired rapid climax means that the problem developed later in your life. Now, let's have a more detailed look at the causes of both forms of early ejaculation.

Causes of Lifelong Premature Ejaculation

  • Now, remember your high school years. What did you learn? That's right, you've learned to cum quickly for your parents not to catch you while you are abusing yourself with a gym sock. It worked then, and no one could tell you that it can be the beginning of your sex problems in future. That's right, it is easy to learn to ejaculate quickly, but it is really hard to learn how to do it in a normal way. That's why you cannot hold your horses longer than a few minutes into the intercourse.
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  • Sometimes a childhood's psychological trauma can become the reason for premature ejaculation. You may have spotted your parents having sex and that image traumatized you. As children and teenagers, we can hardly imagine our parents having sex. Let's be honest, even when we are adults and know for sure that our parents have sex, it is not something that we would like to imagine. Other psychological traumas as being sexually abused or laughed at by the girl you were trying to kiss, may as well be the reasons for premature ejaculation. The psychological trauma increases your level of anxiety concerning sex, thus it can cause premature ejaculation.
  • Cultural aspects or family traditions may also cause rapid climax. If you've emigrated from a puritan country to the state where everybody is open about their sexual desires, the dichotomy of worldviews may traumatize you, as you are left alone wondering whether you belong more to the culture of your new or your old home. As a result, you get premature ejaculation. The same happens, when you have been brought up in the very strict and religious family, and then met the outside world that doesn't view sex as a sin.

Causes of Acquired Premature Ejaculation

  • Conflicts at work can result in stress and depression, which in their turn can often lead to premature ejaculation. Usually, stress and depression at work result in the absence of desire for having sex, but those who are inclined to give in to depressive states can easily get rapid ejaculation as a result.
  • Premature ejaculation can often appear as a result of physical problems and serious illnesses. Prostate problems, heavy drinking, diabetes, and high blood pressure can all lead to rapid ejaculation. The diseases that target the nervous system, such as multiple sclerosis, can also result in premature ejaculation.
  • Relationship issues can also lead to rapid climax. If you and you partner have different sexual needs, and your partner often complaints that you can't bring him or her satisfaction, you are more likely to get sex-related anxiety caused by the fear of failure. The fear that you may fail to bring your partner satisfaction in bed often results in premature ejaculation.

How to Stop Premature Ejaculation?

Now, after learning the origins of premature ejaculation, we finally can talk about the ways of preventing it. Medicine can be used, but only if the reason behind your rapid climaxing lies in physical problems or illnesses. As we don't have a degree in medicine, we will skip this topic and advise you to consult your doctor on that.

Thicker Condoms

You don't need to see the doctor if the reason lies in your over-sensitivity. There are a lot of DIY methods to prevent premature ejaculation. For example, you can use thicker condoms in order to avoid your rapid climax. Thicker condoms decrease the sensitivity of your penis, thus preventing you from showing your star power before the rest of the band started.

Behavior Techniques

1. Start-and-Stop Techniques

Continuing with the DIY methods on how to avoid premature ejaculation, there is a start-and-stop technique. The start-and-stop technique requires you to start stimulating your penis for about one minute, then rapidly stop when you feel that you are about to ejaculate. When you feel that you have regained control, start again and stop again when you feel that you are about to cum. Repeat this process four or five times, then ejaculate when you feel that it is the point of no return. On average, this technique helps over 60% of men to control their premature ejaculation. Still, this technique has a few disadvantages. First of all, if you are overly sensitive, rather than anxious, this behavior technique may not help you.

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2. Squeeze Technique

The squeeze technique is another way of how to control ejaculation. The technique is as easy as the start-and-stop. You start masturbating, and when you feel that you are about to ejaculate, just squeeze your penis in the area between the shaft and the glans for about half a minute. It stops the ejaculation, but you may lose the erection, at least before you start the stimulation again. Then you should repeat the process four or five times until you choose not to delay orgasm anymore. This technique helps you define the point of no return and be able to delay the ejaculation. Mind that to be effective, this method should be practiced for several months.

Long Foreplay

Long foreplay is another way of controlling your ejaculation. Foreplay allows you to focus on your partner and on the sexual pleasures, which can help you overcome your anxieties, and thus, delay your ejaculation. The longer your foreplay, the lesser the possibility of dissatisfaction and sexual related frustration and anxiety. Mind that the more pressure men feel before and during sex, the bigger the possibility of him having premature ejaculation. So, the best way is to discuss your problems with your partner. Only being open with each other can help bearing the bed-related problems.

Don't Be Afraid of Facing the Problem of Premature Ejaculation

Now you know the reason behind rapid climax, as well as the ways of treating this issue. When it comes to premature ejaculation caused by psychological trauma, you need to be able to face the problem. Men often tend to block memories of painful or unpleasant experiences. So, if it turned out that premature ejaculation has nothing to do with your excessive sensitivity or with physical problems, you should consider the possibility of psychological-related issues. Be ready to consult a shrink in order to unblock your memories.

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