How to chat and talk to Russian girls

Irrespective of whether you’re chatting online or talking in person, there are some general rules and universal topics that you should be aware of to keep the ball rolling and get the best out of your conversation. One thing that you should know about Russian girls is that they enjoy talking like all the women in the world; however, they are more open-minded to any topic than Western girls. They like meaningful and sincere conversations, so be prepared to come up with the subjects that will tune her up to the right emotional state and the relaxed and open atmosphere.

How to chat with Russian girls?

Study her profile

Whether you want to chat with a girl online or you’re about to ask her out and have a real-life conversation, you need to gather as much information about her as possible. Look through her profile and make sure that you have similar hobbies or interests. People like to talk about their favorite activities, so instead of introducing some general topic start your chat asking about your common interests. This will make a great attention grabber and establish a strong connection between you two since it’s hard to find someone who wouldn’t like to talk about their passions and aspirations.

Learn to listen

Russian girls, as all women, appreciate those men who are good listeners. Even if she’s talking about obvious things or telling a really boring story, you should be all ears. Don’t try to pretend you’re listening carefully – she will figure you out and take offense. Don’t talk constantly about yourself without giving her an opportunity to chime in. By doing so, you’ll appear self-obsessed and conceited to her.

Show that you’re well-educated

Russian girls like intelligent guys, so demonstrate to her that you’re one of them. For example, you may tell her an interesting fact you’ve recently come across in a newspaper or magazine. If you see that a girl is keen on reading, start talking about the book that impressed you the most (it would be great to talk about Dostoyevsky or Tolstoy or some other Russian writers). What’s important here is that you shouldn’t to go too far and turn your conversation into a conference on literary criticism.

Ask her for help

Slavic girls are very sympathetic and kind-hearted; they are ready to give a helping hand to anyone, especially foreigners. You can ask her to tell you about Russia more (which she would do with pleasure) or if you’ve already come there, ask her to show you around. That will make a great conversation as she will talk about the place she knows very well and make clear some unusual (for you) things. On your part, show genuine interest in her narration and periodically praise her for being such a good storyteller.

Talk about music

One of the Russian girls’ favorite topics for conversation is music. It’s a universal language that unites people. Moreover, if your tastes coincide (you’ve already checked her profile, haven’t you?) it will make a great casual topic to chat about. Ask about her favorite singers or bands, kinds of music she’s really into. You’ll wonder how well aware Russian girls are of the latest trends in music and how many foreign singers they know. Music schools are pretty popular in Russia and most children attend music schools. Ask your interlocutor whether she went to that kind of school and which musical instrument(s) she learned to play. You may also talk about live concerts or festival you’ve been to.

Discuss your plans for future

Another universal topic for a chat is making plans for the nearest future. Those Russian girls who already have a job or those who are currently studying at the university, both would talk non-stop about how they see their future in a couple of years.

Change the subject

It’s impossible to discuss one and the same topic for hours because eventually, one of you will get bored. To avoid any awkward moments, be ready to change the subject when you feel there is little left to say on that topic. It can be easily done by the transitional phrase “by the way”. You say that and introduce any new topic.

Things not to talk about with a Russian girl

Russian girls are heartfelt interlocutors, they like to listen and share information. They are great communicators, supportive, and non-judgemental. Once you establish a strong bond, the ties will be almost unbreakable. However, certain things might return you from the third base to your first checkpoint. Here are the things Russian girls dislike to talk about:

Shrinks and serious mental problems

Russian girls are not into discussing childhood traumas with a stranger. Not that they are not compassionate; it is just a part of their culture. Men are taught to act unbothered even in the cruelest situations, and women are taught to tolerate abuse because these are the things people don’t like to talk about. Is this approach reasonable? Absolutely not! But to establish some form of a bond with your new Russian girl, you need to appear manlier and avoid sleazy talks. Will it last for long? No, of course not! Eventually, even Slavic people open up about their emotions, trials, and tribulations. They are just not ready to talk about everything with everyone, so give her some time first to let you into her inner circle. 

Religion

Russians are religious people, so if you try to disregard the Orthodox church postulates, don’t think you are going to get positive feedback. Don’t think you will impress her by atheist claims either. Some things are just set in stone for Russian people, so even if you have a different opinion, she will kindly ask you to keep it to yourself. 

Politics

Politics is another topic in a red zone. When Americans and Europeans like to discuss new waves of democratic parties, Russians can get seriously offended if someone abuses the name of the political leader. Someone just decides to abstain from a controversial topic altogether, which is pretty wise when talking to a stranger. And while many people won’t take these personally, don’t try these tricks with a Russian girl.

Age

Age is not something Russians ask each other about. Especially directed to a woman, she might take offense in you asking such a personal matter. And yes, some women want to look younger and try every method to combat aging. By asking her questions about age, you are sending a subliminal reminder that we all were younger ten years ago. 

Sex

Sexually explicit topics are in the list of weirdest questions to start with a stranger. In Russian schools, children don’t have sex education, and adults like to kindly abstain from the topic. Even if she’s a “freak in the sheets,” it is something you are going to find out later. 

One thing you should remember that the topic itself isn’t that important. What really matters is the mood you create between you two. If a girl is congenial to you, you won’t even notice how you get to new subjects for discussion. One more typical feature of Russian girls is that they would rather talk than just chat, so take that into account and be ready to get to know the mysterious Russian soul.